STOP THE HATE: Why Can't We Just All Get Along

This issue has been bothering me for a while now and thought it's about time I let it out. All this haterism has taken it's toll on me especially since it's black on black hate.

Phrases like: “Whoo Xhosa girls are men thieves and are deceitful just like their Xhosa men”, “Zulu men are violent and don't know the meaning of romance” or “Swatis sound like retarded children when they speak” are phrases I've heard one too many times. These are the types of stereotypes that are been attached to people based on their cultural backgrounds.

Whether these phrases are true or not, I don't understand why do we have to define ourselves by stereotypes like these. These stereotypes have gone as far as we as the black nation hating each other. I've heard women saying you should never let a Xhosa woman near your man or else you will find yourself single coz sister girl don't play when it come to men, she takes without asking.

I get really concerned with these stereotypes coz I can't help to think if this is black-on-black hate in a different form. Black people have a history of this kind of hate where blood was shed between the Zulus and Xhosas.

For example people say Zulu women are submissive towards their men and can't stand up for themselves. They like“Yebo baba” whenever he says or want anything. I'm Zulu and certainly I'm no 'yes girl' and will not let no man walk all over me and he knows it. It's 50/50 baby. Or that Zulu women are violent just like their taxi driving boyfriends, wearing fake labels with a matching fake gold tooth bought and fitted at a street corner. Yes we Durbanites love mouth bling but hell no, we don't go that far.

But this hate don't just end with Xhosas and Zulus. I've heard Tsonga women don't have no personal hygiene or that all Coloured girls are smoking and alcohol binging baby making machines.

I have Coloured friends and can safely say that's not true. I know my girls will flip their wigs if somebody told them that to their face. In just about any community, there are those certain individuals who will give misconceptions which unfortunately will create a stereotype to the community.

I wish that we as a people can stop judging each other from one certain experience but judge a person from their personality. Not that I'm all Ms Goody-Too-Shoes but I think it's only fare to give each other a chance and don't shut each other out because we of a certain culture or even race.

Let's just all get along!

Yea Mpume Said So

If He Beats You, Run And Never Come Back!

There have been rumoures flying around that Chris and Rihanna are back together yet again soon after Chris made the fake apology to Riri. According to London's Daily Mail, the two were seen checking into the Trump International Hotel and Tower on Friday at separate rooms.

If the rumour mill is true and that they are still seeing each other, I'm not surprised at all. Hell I wouldn't be surprised if they come out in the open and say they still a couple. I've always said and will continue to say that there's more to what really happened that night in February than what the rest of us know.

Besides that, these types of things always happen, I've seen it with my own eyes. A guy will knock they lights out of his girlfriend or wife and sometimes he will beat up so badly she ends up in hospital but still once he smooth talks her she will go running back to his arms as if nothing has ever happened.

Personally I never been in that situation coz I feel I'm way smarter than to stay in an abusive relationship that is draining me physical and mentally. Nonetheless I've had encounter with people I know that have/are in abusive relationships but still choose to stay despite the on-going abuse. I asked one beautiful sister who was in an abusive relationship with a very relative of mine why does she stay and continue with such abuse and she simply told me it's coz they have a child together and she wants him to be in his child's life. I told that is just an excuse to stay, which I still feel strongly about. The sad part is that they have broken up and he simply refuses to be in the child's life unless a circumstance forces him to.

Ladies must learn that if a guy beats you up, even once, pack your bags and leave because 99.99% of the time he will do it again. And if he sees that you a sucker for a smack he will take advantage of your weakness and one day he will end up taking you to your grave.

So ladies stop being fools of these sorry excuses for men and stand up your ground. When the relationship is becoming too abusive don't be afraid to cut your loses and leave him. Regardless on whether you have a child with him or not. Regardless on any other circumstance coz your life and the lives of your loved ones is much more important than anything else.

Yes Mpume said so.